What does “being a guy” actually mean? There are as many different answers to that question as there are ways of being a guy. Depending on who you ask, you’ll get a different reply. But there are some made-up rules about what young men “should be like” that many of us recognise. We call these made-up rules “guy norms”: they make us believe young men should behave in a certain way, look and dress a certain way, like certain things and treat others in a certain way. Have you ever felt like you needed to be a certain way just to fit in? Chat about it with us. You can talk to us anonymously, we’re here to support you.
Do you feel like you need to be a certain way just because you’re a guy? Do you often get angry instead of crying when you’re actually feeling sad? Have you ever wanted to talk to others about your feelings, but felt afraid to? Do people say you should be interested in girls just because you’re a guy? These are assumptions many guys have to deal with – but they’re actually based on made-up rules. We call those rules guy norms. They try to tell us what young men should be like, think, feel and how they should behave around others. But that is up to us to decide!
Unfortunately, it’s common for guys to feel like they can’t talk about certain feelings. Many young men feel like they’re not allowed to show the world when they’re sad, or to talk about things they struggle with. If society says anger is better than sadness, it’s no wonder you bottle up some of your feelings. We know everyone needs someone to talk to or a shoulder to cry on sometimes. That’s why we created Killar.se. Chat with us anonymously!